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Posted by -julia

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Some of you may recall that last August I published an essay entitled Why Does “Transvestigation” Happen? On Gendering, Ungendering, and (Mis)Perceiving Trans People. It uses so-called “transvestigators” and the JK Rowling/Imane Khelif Olympics ordeal as a jumping-off point to ask more general questions about how we see gender, how trans and gender-nonconforming people “short-circuit” this unconscious process, how our perception changes as we become more cognizant of gender & sexual minorities, and why some people seem to get “stuck” in stage where they compulsively misperceive gender and sexual diversity in cis people as “transness.” 

It is one of my favorite essays that I wrote in the last few years. And now it has been turned into a video essay! You can watch it here (or via this link: https://youtu.be/kC6lsvUKEQ0):

The YouTube show notes contain the following "chapters" of the video – you can use the time stamps there to skip ahead to particular sections if you wish: 

0:00 Introduction
2:18 The Two Filing Cabinets Mindset
8:00 Ungendering and “The Look”
17:15 Delusions of “Gaydar” and “Transdar”
23:00 Dismantling the Two Filing Cabinets Mindset (for better or worse)
32:50 Believing Is Seeing
39:40 Other Perceptual Biases (or why trans women, gender non-conforming women, and women of color are especially fucked)
43:53 Conclusion

I also wrote a short companion essay for the video called How Do We See Gender and Trans People? You can read it on Substack at that link or else on Medium – both are no paywall. I thought I'd end this post with the last few paragraphs from the companion essay:

In addition to being intellectually interesting, I believe this issue is one of the most underappreciated obstacles that trans people face. The fact that most cis people naively presume that they see the world “normally” or “correctly” directly leads to them imagining us as “outliers” at best and “abominations” at worse. We can explain gender and sexual diversity to them until we’re blue in the face, but the real problem is they cannot see that diversity even though it’s all around them!

Encouraging the cis majority to dismantle their Two Filing Cabinets mindset in a “good way” (as I put it in the video) has the potential to help them see that there is no such thing as a “normal” or “correct” gender—we are all simply collections of sex characteristics that vary in all sorts of ways.

Dismantling the Two Filing Cabinets mindset can also help trans people, especially those still in the “questioning” phase. I spent years believing that I’d never be able to transition because there appeared to be an immense chasm separating male from female that seemed nearly impossible to transverse. But it turned out that chasm was entirely in my mind. As I explain in the video, as my gender perception shifted—as I began seeing gender and sexual diversity in all its varied forms—I gradually realized that it was possible for me. I had been stuck on the false notion that I could never be a “real” or “normal” girl, until I was finally able to see that there is no such thing as a “normal girl.”

Anyway, whatever your current state of gender perception is, I hope you appreciate the video—and if you do, please “like” it (which will help boost it in YouTube’s algorithm) and share widely!

If you appreciate that I make videos & essays like this freely available online, please consider supporting me on Patreon (for as little as $1/month)!

http://juliaserano.blogspot.com/2025/07/a-short-essay-video-about-how-we-see.html